Q: How do I stick with it? How do I do what I know I should, but just don’t do? (Part I)

Q: How do I stick with doing what I know I should? I am pretty good about exercise, but I eat things I know I shouldn’t. I just have to make myself do it, right?

A: It isn’t about making yourself do anything, or it won’t last. You have to find a way to do it without having to force yourself with tools like discipline and will power. Forcing yourself means you view it as a chore. If you view it as a chore, it won’t last.  The key is finding your real motivation.

Discipline and will power mean you have to make yourself do it. I’m talking about finding something bigger that drives you so you aren’t forcing yourself, but rather you want to do it and enjoy doing it. ‘Enjoying’ and ‘wanting’ may sound foreign in the context of eating right and exercising, but that’s the point.

For me, it was a culmination of things that hit a couple of years ago when my wife got sick and I realized I had put on much of the weight I had lost when I was younger and basically felt miserable physically and about myself. Our young son was watching all of this. That isn’t what a child should see as health role models. It literally flipped a switch in my head and drove me in a way I hadn’t been driven before, not even when I lost 65 pounds when I was 17.

Now I do it because I genuinely love it and don’t like not doing it. I don’t have to push myself. I see myself in a totally different way, and fitness isn’t something I have to do, but something I want to do and is intrinsically tied to who I am. Before, the best way to describe it was a chore.
No one wants to do chores.
The same goes for eating right, which is where many people would benefit from focusing. While there are probably a few key things you can change in your diet that will have dramatic effects, if you don’t find that thing that makes you want to do it, you’ll fall off the wagon when temptation arises.
What will motivate you to come at it differently? That’s a question you can only answer for yourself. I can help you do that, but ultimately, it has to come from you to really shift things. Figure it out, and you will enlighten.your.body.

About bryan falchuk

bryan falchuk is the founder of newbodi.es, a certified personal trainer, behavior change specialist and the best-selling author of "Do a Day". bryan coaches people on their whole health - the physical, mental and emotional combination of wellness that we need to thrive and change our lives.

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